Some people talk about how the first week is always the hardest, but I disagree. Only 7 days, and this has already been an amazing experience. Grayson is such a great baby. I know people would like say, "Oh just wait...the fun hasnt begun yet", as an attempt to try to scare me or make me worry that things are going to start to get really hard and they make it all sound so negative....it doesn't get to me though. Preparing for parenthood, I knew that some nights would be very long and some days would be hard, so I am prepared for it and not at all scared about it. Even if Grayson does start to become more fussy or things get a little harder, it will not bring me down and I will not be negative about it.
This is parent hood people, EMBRACE IT. All of it.
Week by week, month by month, things will be changing...Grayson will be changing, so the way I see it, I am going to take in every little funny face, whimper and cry, nap times and tummy times, poopy diapers and spit ups...every litte thing because one day he isn't going to need the attention that he needs now and he won't need us to take care of him the way he needs now. To change his diapers, and hold him through the night while he cries (if he begins to do that)....to me...that is an honor and I should be so thankful that God has blessed me and trusted me to care for a such a precious life.
I believe every parent should feel that way. I think that if every parent felt that way, and continued to keep that mindset through the late nights and frustrations, things would be so much easier and they wouldnt feel so stressed.
Yes, of course, every parent...including myself, is going to feel like they dont know what they are doing, or that they are not fit for parenthood...but that is completely normal and I think we can all agree in that feeling only last a moment..yes it seems like it last a lifetime and we get overwhelmed with that feeling...but it doesnt have to be that way. The hard times make us stronger. It might put momentary strains on marriages, but if handled the right way, it will only make that marriage stronger, and as soon as that stressful moment is over with you realize that you just overcame another obstacle -together. That is something to be proud of. My husband and I have grown so much closer this past week than I could have ever imagined. And I know that we will continue to grow so strong and so close as husband and wife and as friends and partners...so I am not scared of anything to come. I am not in this alone. My husband shares the same attitude I do when it comes to our new life and parenthood that I know we will never fail.
I say:
Just breathe. No matter what is going on, take a deep breath, look at the beautiful little baby, and smile....you are holding a miracle.
One week down, and I cannot wait for each day, week, month and year that is to come.
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